A Tragedy that Isn’t Yours

29 Jan

A family member of mine miscarried today.  Or lost the baby.  Or whatever you want to call it.  She was already 18 weeks along, so nearly halfway there.  This was a second child they wanted desperately and not her first loss.

It’s an incredibly sad thing.

(And now to make it about me….)

What do you do in a situation like this?  We aren’t that close, but at the same time, I was probably one of the first people to know.  She lives … not close, so I can’t just pop on by with a casserole.  Flowers aren’t appropriate and neither is a sympathy card.  But it’s terrible and I want to help, do something to let her know I care.  Because I care, very much.  I feel heartbroken for her.

(And now more about me….)

Randomly, this is emotionally tough for me.  Why, heaven knows.  Our situations couldn’t be more different.  But there’s this weird infertility thing that’s eating at me.  Not to mention a feeling of …something, because her grief will be real, tangible and shared by others.  My grief for my thing is … not. 


Edit!  – I realized that this was categorized under Weight Loss – how ironically cruel is that.  Jeez, me.  Pay attention to your categories.


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